As we grow older and our lives start to get busier and busier, we start to lose out on time spent with parents. After all, they don’t even speak the same language anymore, and children often have endless events to keep them away. One of the sweetest things you can do as a child is to give them a surprise gift the next time you go home. Here are a few things you can do.
If your parents – like most – still live in the same house that you grew up in then it is probably due for a good old renovation from top to bottom. If you can’t afford to do the whole thing, how about doing just one room? Run some kitchen designs Sydney by an architect or designer, sneak him/her into the house when your parents are not at home and then figure out how feasible it will be. Even something as simple as making the house more age-friendly like banisters along the walls near the bathrooms, clip-proof carpeting and ramps on stairs for potential wheelchairs will be a thoughtful and kind gesture that shows how much you care.
If your parents haven’t gotten out much recently, try taking them on a surprise holiday instead of redoing their kitchens Newcastle. Most elderly folk don’t really like change because they are so used to their own surroundings, but a day or two would be a nice adventure, especially if you have planned it right. Remember that they can’t sit still for long and need frequent bathroom breaks, so plan a trip somewhere not too far. A nice hotel getaway or trip to the beach is ideal since it will not be strenuous and won’t require too much change.
Of course, nothing will give them more pleasure than seeing you more, so if there is any possibility of visiting them more go ahead and do it. If you can’t talk to them about your day because they won’t understand, encourage them to do the talking and try to be invested in their lives. What seems to you petty and juvenile may be the highlight of their week, so don’t disparage their interests. Instead, pay attention to them the same way that they did to you when you were a child asking meaningless questions and prattling on about sand in their clothes. Take them something small each time, like snacks they used to love or more reading material. Encourage your own family to go down more or take a friend with you whom you know will charm the pants off your mother, or be able to talk ‘man’ to your father.